He called on Saturday morning and ask if I
was at home, of course I’m at home it’s a
Saturday. Some hours later he showed up at
He apologized for not calling or visiting, he
talked about the good times we shared, he
talked about me having a lovely family and
me having a good heart and all that.
And at the end of the whole epistles he said
and I quote “Pamilerin I think we need a
“A break? Then you must think I’m blind,
stupid and gullible. Tunde you and I know we
don’t need a break, you don’t need to fool
me, I wasn’t born yesterday.
You know exactly what we need and please
don’t make me say it for you because I won’t
forgive you if you make me say it for you”
“Pamilerin! I love you, but im not just feeling
the vibe anymore, Love is not enough you
know” he said with Pleading.
“Please cut to the chase and spare me the
lectures” I said sternly.
“Ehm actually, things are no longer working
out between us, what I really mean is that…we
should….end the relationship” he said
I knew already that the relationship is over I
just want him to say whatever he has to say
and leave me for good, I was that tired.
“Fine, the relationship has ended before now,
all this is just formalities. I wish you all the
He was shocked at my words. I’m sure he
didn’t expect that, he thought I’ll be crying or
something or maybe he thought I’ll beg him
not to leave, it’s written all over his face that
he was shocked at the way I reacted to the
I’ve cried my eyes dried before now and I
already let go since.
He apologized for not coming out straight in
the first place and with that we ended it.
In the evening, I went to my parent’s
bedroom, and explained everything to them.
“Pamilerin, so you two have been having
issues all this while and you never mentioned
it? My Mom asked sounding worried.
“Mummy, I was trying to give him time, I
thought things will get back to normal”
“So where did he expect you to start from
now, ehn!” she lamented
“Eh! Woman, what will your Lamentation solve
now. You should even thank God that we
discover his true identity early” My Daddy
“I thank God oooo, broken relationship is
better than a broken marriage. Who would
have thought that, that boy would change like
that” My mom said putting her two palms
“Daniella! My daddy called out as he fondly
“Sir” I replied
“Every disappointment is a blessing, and if
one door closes another will open. So please
try as much as possible to move on with your
“Yes sir, thank you sir”
“Jo oko mi ma ronu o” (myndaughter, please
don’t brood about it)This is just a sign that
Tunde is not yours. Please be strong, ehn!”
“ Mo ti gbo ma” (I’ve heard you ma) I replied.
I knelt down and thanked them.
“Good night sir/ma”
“Good night” they chorused.
I told my siblings were still in the sitting
room, I broke the news to them too. There’s
no point calling any friend, they’ll find out
sooner or later.
I called my cousin, Joy. She’s preparing for
her wedding with the same guy that got her
pregnant when we were still in school. At
least there are still few loyal ones out there. I
guessed I wasn’t lucky with mine.
“Dear cousin, what’s up”
“Joy, Tunde broke up with me, he’s seeing
“It’s a lie, tell me you are joking. After all this
“I’m not joking” I took my time and explained
everything to her.
“That’s his lose my dear, just take heart, I
believe God will provide someone far far
better than him”
“Please don’t kill yourself over one stupid son
of Adam o”
“Me! Never. My sister how’s the wedding
preparation going?” I asked brushing my own
“Leave that for now, Let’s focus on you now”
“Joy…. There’s nothing to focus, Let’s just
say that’s how God want it.
She told me about the latest plan on ground,
before i ended the call.
I prayed that night thanking God for giving me
the strength to handle it, while I was praying
few drops of tears left my eyes, but trust me I
wasn’t down or broken.
I told myself “Isaac Oluwapamilerin Daniella
the sun will shine again”. With that, I slept off.
#When someone hurts you, you learn to be
stronger…..When someone leaves you, you
learn to be independent #
After my break up with Tunde, I kept myself
busy with work and Church activities. I don’t
party or club but I make sure I use my free
time to engage myself in things that makes
me happy. I fed my soul with good music.
Yes music is food for the soul.
Sincerely I enjoyed my single status, I was
free, I don’t owe anyone any explanation for
my life, I do things my way and I buy less
recharge card. I know how much I spend on
recharge cards when I was dating.
My Parents were very happy because I was
happy. My Daddy called me once and told me
“I never knew you are this strong, I’m proud
He actually said this after My cousin’s
wedding. My cousin got married to her Price
charming, her wedding was awesome. I was
there for her all through.
I just told him “Daddy, the Joy of the Lord is
What doesn’t kill you, make you stronger.
Five months later, I was in my room relaxing
after doing my chores. I was about to see a
movie on my laptop when I heard my phone
ring, I looked around for my phone then I
noticed the sound is coming from the
I remembered I left it there when I washing.
My Mom always warn me not to take my
phone to the bathroom, but I love listening to
music when washing or doing other chores.
In my Mummy’s voice “The day that phone
will drop inside water, ehn. Thank God you
are working, you know how easy it is to earn
I rushed into the bathroom to pick my phone.
I checked the caller Id it was an international
number, I was wondering who it was,
although I have few friends abroad, but we
only communicate via social media platforms,
we rarely talk on phone.
“Hello” I replied, please who is this?
“This is Daniel on the line calling from
America, please I’d like to speak with Mr
Paul” he said in American accent.
“Sorry, this is a wrong number” I informed
“Wrong number? He said from the other end.
Please hold on while I checked the number
“I just rechecked this is the number I was
given” he said
“Well, I’m sorry this is my line and obviously
I’m not Mr Paul”
I expected him to end the call but he did not,
I suspected he’s some how disappointed.
“Oh…my… goodness” he said stressing each
Any problem” I asked just feeling concerned.
“I’m coming to Nigeria on a business trip
tomorrow and he’s suppose to help me settle
down and show me around. Mr Paul is a
cousin to a friend of mine whom I can’t even
reach right now. He’s busy with his project
somewhere in East Africa and I can’t reach
him over there too” he explained.
“Sorry about that, I said. Do you know his
email address, if you do then you can mail
“Yes I have sent numerous mails to him, I
called this line because he did not reply any
of my mails”
“Ok let’s try it this way, use his email
address to search for him on facebook, then
maybe you can be lucky to get his mobile no
or other information about him on facebook” I
“You are a life saver, you know I never
thought of that,I was so anxious to get
through to him, I couldn’t think straight. That
was a good suggestion, thanks for your time.
Despite the fact that I’m a stranger, you still
took your time to find me a solution. Thanks I
appreciate it. What’s the name” he asked
“Pamilerin, but if you can’t pronounce that
you can call me Daniella”
Of course I can, I’m Nigerian and I’m yoruba
but I’ll prefer Daniella since my name is
Daniel” he said jokingly. Thanks for your
“You are welcome”
Thanks once again and have a great weekend.
“You too, bye” I replied, then the line went off.
To be continued….